This chapter of life for me is all about self discovery and steep progression. Understanding who I am and what I'm here to do. Making strides towards reaching my goals, failing fast and fulfilling my purpose.
As a millennial, I feel like my generation is made up of many go-getters, all discovering and pursuing our dreams in various life arenas, making an impact on society and it's a beautiful thing to be a part of. We're all striving for a brighter tomorrow and hope to leave a legacy of some sort, right? But do we even understand what a legacy is?
A legacy is anything passed down as from an ancestor or predecessor. For me the key words in there are 'passed down', meaning there has to be a link between generations.
We're all preoccupied with the idea of uncovering the future, fulfilling the vision but let's not forget to look retrospectively because to understand where we're going, we need to understand where we've come from. A bit cliché I know, but stay with me.
Listen! There is wisdom in learning from other people's mistakes. Surely it only makes sense to save ourselves the trouble of repeating previous shortfalls and benefitting from the knowledge gained by people who have walked this path already. By understanding both the good and bad we can hasten our own journeys and fulfil our destiny quicker.
In my opinion, understanding our history and heritage also contributes to a greater understanding of our personal identity. What contributed to the complex, multifaceted people we are today which brings us to an understanding of what makes us unique and what differentiates you from person x and y.
The danger of not having this understanding is we end up behaving like crabs in a barrel. Individually the crabs can all escape from this barrel but instead they grab one another in a useless 'king of the hill' competition which prevents any from escaping and ensures their collective demise.
I see this especially when a large group of people pursue a similar career path, typically creative. Your visions and destiny are all unique, the routes in which they may manifest themselves however, aren't always. In fact, there is nothing (or very little) new under the sun.
Take this website for example, it seems everyone has a blog these days but because I know what drove me to create this in the first place, I'm not in competition with everyone else, in fact I'm rooting for other bloggers out there.
One of the things I value most in life is family. Over the past few years I've made a concerted effort to strengthen my own relationships within mine, both immediate and extended and I've come to a better understanding of my own history through it.
If you're blessed to be surrounded by some of your own family and relatives, older and younger take advantage of those bonds, learn from one another, it seems negligible but can do so much for you and learning about yourself through others
Let's be a generation that builds on the firm foundations that have been established before us. Personal success is good but the true beauty of success to me is leaving a legacy, knowledge passed down because legacy outlives a single generation.
Have you ever been pulled up by a friend, colleague, or family member for apparent distance and lack of communication? I know I have, in fact recently quite a few times.
Personally, I'm the kind of person that operates happily in my own little bubble, loves people from a distance as I get on with life and I think subconsciously I expect others to do the exact same.
My initial response on a number of occasions tends to be somewhere along the lines of
"I was gonna call you, then... *inserts excuse here*".
In a world where everyone uploads snippets of their lives on social media, it's easy to get caught up in the idea that we're 'in touch' with peoples latest life updates. Responding to a snapchat video, sending a tweet, liking a status, they're all practical but impersonal ways of communicating. If you're like me and tend to keep the tough nitty gritty bits of day to day reality off the internet, why would we then take someones 'status' as a true reflection of their current life state?
I get it. We're all busy doing something, but the fact of the matter is, no one receives pending phone calls, messages or visits because we're human beings and not mind readers.
Sometimes meeting up with the people you love the most is a challenge, but it's important to make sure they know you love them in whatever way possible.
A simple text, call, voice note or FaceTime can make all the difference because although our hearts may be in the right place, no one receives pending...
Hi, I'm Umutoni a twenty-something year old Londoner embarking on a journey to find a new meaning to beauty in everyday life and affirming the identity of beauty with substance.